I do not believe its odd to ask for a little space in the relationship. Some people may find it a little off putting but I do not. We all are on the forum because we have some emotional issue we are dealing with. I believe that your b/f should and probably will understand that you need thinking time. You have issues of your own you're trying to sort out and I hope he understands that. A little space, a little time to think, to re-charge is ok. We all need a day here or there to think and to evaluate our feelings and emotions.

Stop asking if there is something wrong with you, you are fine. You recognize that you feel uncomfortable and trapped and that this may be something that needs to be dealt with.

How often are you and your b/f together? Every single hour of every single day? Every night? Every other day? If you're together all the time it will begin to make you feel trapped and make you feel as if you are losing track of who you are and this can cause a roller coaster of unnecessary anxiety ridden thoughts.

Do you still see your therapist? Have you talked to him/her about it?

Commitment is terrifying, especially if you have experienced trauma from loved ones before. Sometimes it takes work to get to a point where you are comfortable with love, affection and commitment again, and that is ok.