Being a recovering alcoholic myself, I can tell you that she's in for a ride....I lost a relationship due to my drinking. The guy just plain got fed up with me. We alcoholics are hard people to live with when drinking....I feel for her. If she wants to stick by him, maybe Alanon would help? Its a program for loved ones of alcoholics. It might help her set some boundaries so she can have a successful marriage with him. Sounds like she's ready to put up with a lot, based on what she already puts up with....yikes!