Snake charmer, I like what all you said and this part...

" What I like is being able to make my own choices. And I have a sister like that, too. So I kinda sorta know what you're going through. She's rejected me. It stung, but now I wish her well and pray for her happiness. Her actions stemmed from some deep unhappiness that I had nothing to do with and no power to correct or fix or make better. That's up to her"

I think that is the case with my sister. She has always rejected me, though I kept trying to make her happy somehow.

Thanks so much for your 'rant'. I just wish I could quit obsessing about it all. I go from being angry at my dad for his request to anger at her for being so callus here at the holidays. Back and forth, back and forth. Guess I need to flip a coin to decide what to do. It's sad that it all makes you hate the holidays!!!