Hi,
This sounds quite like my situation, except she is hurt by it. I realize it is partly from who she is and we are working on that. But, more so, I feel there is something wrong with me that she doesn't deserve my lack of wanting to put the effort in. It isn't that I don't want her to have satisfaction, she deserves more than what I feel, I just don't feel like putting that much physical energy to it. It literally feels like too much work.