I know its unfair and irrational, but I can't help it. I am 23 and it feels like virtually all guys my age only think about one thing. It is as though no one has shown any interest in me since the turn of the millennia (and not really when I was a kid either, I was never one of the pretty popular girls).

I can dress up, I can use an hour just on putting on make-up and dressing nicely, but still guys seem to go for the girls who put on the shortest dress possible and who didn't seem to spend ten minutes contemplating how to get a man to notice them, because for them it's so natural. I am a bit drunk right now, which might affect what I write, but it's the honest truth: Sometimes I hate and despise men, even though I know it's mean. Even the "ugly" men seem to aim for the prettiest, most confident girls. There doesn't seem to be any chance for the rest of us. Men in general seem only interested in sex and they seem to go for whatever seems the road of least resistance. I guess it's a good thing that I'm not considered the road of least resistance, but I doubt they contemplate how it feels for the ones who are not considered because 1) we are not really more than average in terms of attraction and 2) we are not really interested in hooking up with anything that moves. I can't remember the last time I met a guy who bothered to make an effort, not with friends of mine either.

It really hurts me sometimes. Today I cried for hours after going out to a college party because I had literally spent a really long time dressing up the nicest I could, putting on the best make-up I could etc., and no one (except for women) semed to notice. No one commented it. No one asked me to dance (I hate dancing, but still, being asked would be nice), no one offered to buy me drinks. It was the same as it always is; going out wrecks my confidence. I know I am intelligent, funny etc., but over the years I have stopped believing that anyone will ever be interested in me because it doesn't seem like it. It hurts, it hurts deeply, I am aware those horny guys probably never consider that stuff, but it doesn't make it hurt less. I am just so tired of ten years of boys and men being interested in my friends, just wanting to be friends with me or even just talking to me because of my friends (That's the worst, I have never met a woman who doesn't talk to a guy she's not interested in unless he's acting creepy, but I have met quite a lot of guys who ignore girls they have no romantic interest in, once again they seem oblivious to how this feels). I am sick and tired of being a wingwoman, I do it for all friends (gay and straight, male and female) but I really wish those effing cowards would just approach the ones they are actually interested in, because now it feels like they're just rubbing it in.

I know it might just be because I am 23 and in college and that it gets better in a few years, once also those guys start realizing they need something more than just casual sex, but I still don't see myself as a first choice. It's not that I don't like myself, because I do, if I were a guy I would dig me, but most men don't seem to - I like a lot of the stuff men typically do, I make dirty jokes, I am not afraid to stand my ground etc., this doesn't mean I can't be cute or feminine. But I just feel like no guy wants me, regardless of what I think of myself as a person, and it feels really bad when almost all my trips downtown end with me crying or being sad about this. My self esteem is wrecked, and on top of everything I am so confused as I (not to sound braggy) honestly don't see why no one would be interested. It just really gets me, now I even sometimes start crying while I am still out, I try to avoid it because I am patethic but every visit to a club or a pub just reminds me how uninteresting I apparently seem to men. Which makes me think men are shallow and rather sexist, only caring about women in terms of getting laid - which makes me bitter and even hateful, sometimes, even though I've had male friends all my life, even though my dad is one of the best people I know - in other words, I know it' not right or rational but I can't help feeling this way.

Does anyone relate? What did you do to stop feeling like this?