How did you make this conclusion? You do not know what is or is not meaningless to HER. Yumeikui merry would not find it meaningless, but we do not know anything about your gf. Which is not surprising since you do most of the talking in your relationship with her and she does occasional crying and that is it. So you have not had a chance to learn anything about her views, opinions, personality, insecurities, strong suits, and all the rest of that.

PS Since the gf did not dwell on sexting, she might have found it meaningless. Or, she could have by then been intimidated and overwhelmed by you and did not dare to raise her voice. There are many possible explanations.

I also have to ask how your numbers are so precise. 2 days, 3 weeks, 6 weeks - do you keep a diary?

Since you appreciate honesty and objective opinions, and clearly deserve much commendation for this, I will tell you what strikes me as the most bizarre sentence in the whole account:

"Fast forward to September, she tells me she needs more attention and affection. So we have a good chat. I tell her about some past abuse issues and death of loves ones which cause me to put up walls and not fully put myself out there for someone. But that I wanted us to work on that."

I hope the point is clear through emphasis in the quotation from your post. Not only do you do what Bill has pointed out - trying to use a lover as a free therapist, and not just free, but somebody who has to pay the price for being with you by tolerating your being distant, your accusations, intolerance, and lack of appreciation of her and her efforts, but you also think that a lover is supposed to work on your own issues as part of a couple. Buy 1 get 1 free?