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Originally Posted by nervous puppy
After 13 years I told my T that our session the other day was our last. I th. k it was the hardest thing I have ever done.
She has stage IV pancreatic cancer that has metastasized to her liver and peritoneum. She plans on practising as long as she can. She told me 2 months ago, but we've only had 3 sessions in that time.
I already met with a new T who seems very nice.
I've been shedding a lot of tears over the thought of never seeing her again. So hard.  |
Hi Nervous Puppy,
I'm so sorry about this! I can imagine how hard this must be for you to go through! 13 years is a long time. I also have been in therapy that long, so I understand totally how attached you can feel and how difficult it is to think about letting go. My t will be retiring in the next year or two, so I will need to terminate also, and the thought of it is so scary! So I really feel for you! I think it's harder in your case because of your t's very poor health. I realize that it may have felt best for you to cut the ties now, so that you don't have to witness her getting any worse, etc. But since you had such a long t relationship, do you think, in the long run, that still keeping in touch briefly via email might help you learn to let go more slowly? Or is it best for you the way you did it? I'm very glad you have another therapist now to help you process the feelings of grief and loss. You are in my thoughts, Nervous Puppy! So many hugs and strength I'd like to send your way!
Peaches