Thank you. im feeling less confused and wrong now. at least now i know what i'd like to be a little different.

i went at his place tonight but i didnt have the courage to mention the above. it went well, he is very sweet and i felt comfortable so i didnt see the point in bringing it up. but next time i feel smothered or resented/angered or scared for no apparent reason i'll remember this thread and will try to talk things through, even if it will be hard.

Thank you all for your help!