I finally said it...the word divorce to my husband of only 2 years. After being lied to indiscriminately about little things and big things. It's finally come to "debt do us part". Please read on, I appreciate any help or perspective you can provide. My husband lies to me, in disputes he's said "you can't prove it" which to me is all the confirmation I need. Most recently, we had some emergency repair done to the house (his before marriage) to the tune of $8,000. We keep our finances separate. I give him money toward household expenses and do the food shopping. I would have hoped he had some money saved from what I give him but he says he doesn't have any and he had to put it on his credit card and will be taking a home equity loan to pay for it. I had to be at the closing to sign a form as a non-vested spouse. At the bank, it turned out the loan was for $11,000 to pay off credit card debt and I ended up basically co-signing the loan on almost every page. When we got home, I asked him to show me the credit card statements that add up to $11,000 and he wouldn't. He got very defensive, I ended up exercising my right to cancel because all weekend passed an he wouldn't fess up. I told him I can make payments to the bank for the emergency repair of the house, if he shows me the charge on the credit statement but that I wouldn't be giving him anymore cash, since he spends it all. This is just a snapshot, there have been many similar disagreements, he wouldn't discuss finances before marriage and after the honeymoon I had to give him $1,000 to pay off his credit card plus all the wedding gift money went to his bank account and i paid for the honeymoon. He did put me on his account so we could deposit the wedding money but the only time I purchased something, he put on a huge show disputing the charge with the credit card company when I had given him the cash in advance for a dance class we were going to take that was cancelled.