I'm kind of in the same boat Nick's Nose, I'm on a dating site. I asked my brother for advice (trust me he's experienced lol), and he says guys usually don't bother much before the holidays. They are thinking, stuff like, well if I date her, am I going to have to get her a gift etc. I find that funny. Not all I'm sure are like that.
I have told a few I'm chatting with that, not to expect me to be talking much because family and the holiday season is busy. I think that works. It's not a good time of year, for me anyways, it is too complicated. so you aren't alone in your feelings
Hugs.