I don't think that you can ever get her over her past. I think you can help and be there for her as a partner and someone who will care and listen which is so, so great. But something like that, it's dependent on the person who has gone through the trauma. She's going to be the one to talk to someone- a therapist, psychologist, a recovery group. She's going to have to take action. As much as you want someone to overcome their struggles, you can't do it for them. You can lead the horse to the water, but you can't make them drink it. So just be wise, and just be careful, and try not to get too tangled up- but let her know you care and suggest some healthy, helpful resources for her. That's the best thing to do. And she will appreciate it so much I am sure.