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Originally Posted by silentangel1969
I am having to deal with this right now. My ex is 50, his gf is 25, I am 45. My ex an I have children 10 yrs younger, same age, 3 yrs, and 4 yrs younger than the gf. I am having to deal with the gf living in our house, and she is a major trigger for me. I have borderline personality disorder. None of the 6 daughters approve and no longer talk to him and he doesn't care. It is supposed to be family first, and he doesn't care. It really pisses me off. I can't stand to see, hear, and be around her.
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You say "family first" but you think it's ok that your daughters are not speaking to their own father simply because he broke a backwards social taboo. It sounds like you are putting backwards societal values ahead of family. It makes me really sad to think that maybe one of your daughters wants to have a relationship with her dad, but perhaps feels pressured by the rest of you. It really is a shame that things have to be that way. Personally, it rips me apart when my family members are mad at each other and not speaking. It just isn't right.
However, I imagine that if you dated a younger guy, it would not bother them so much. In fact, they might even give you a high five. I could be wrong, but I think the only reason they disapprove of their father dating younger women is because society has brainwashed them to believe that it is perverted and predatory for men to date younger women. Women dating younger men is not portrayed the same way. We have feminism to thank for that.
Anyways, why does it bother YOU so much that he's dating a younger woman? Do you still have feelings for him? If not, then why does it matter to you who he dates? Is it just jealousy? Would it bother you if she was 40 but was a youthful looking model? I'm not judging you btw.