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Originally Posted by Supanova
Im not a parent, but I work with many troubled and disabled kids. A 4 year old with cavities is quite alarming, which makes me first think of his diet. You mention he wont eat anything but junk food? This could well be an explanation for his misbehaviour. I have seen completely out of control dx autistic, anxious and adhd children have their lives turned around by a simple diet change. It may be hard work to get him to eat your new diet but it could be worth it in the long run and for his long term health.
I have only met one child in my entire life who had cavities as a 4 year old, by 6 years his mouth was full of visibly rotten teeth, by 8 he had to get the lot removed. He apparently refused to drink anything but fizzy or cordial, the parents giving him the choice to have sugary drinks is more child abuse than your firm hand on his arm.
Well done for getting through each day, I struggle and I dont even have anyone relying on me. I admire you for trying your best and reaching out for support when you need it. All the best  |
I have taken him to a dentist twice and each time she said don't worry about it they will fall out. The thing is he doesn't drink a lot of sugar because of that but he does eat sugar in the form of fruit snacks and treats after he eats some sort of dinner (Mac n cheese, pbj, spaghettios, etc). He is such a picky eater that I can't force vegetables down his throat or a lot of fruit either. I'm going to take him to a therapist though for the hitting and maybe she/he can give me some advice to help his eating. The other thing is my husband's family has a history of soft enamel that leads to many dental problems so he could also have soft enamel.
Thank you so much for your replies everyone. I think I'm just being really hard on myself. Part of this is probably my son's personality too. He's always been a difficult child. When he was an infant he had colic and would spen hours crying and all I could do would be rock him for hours or bounce him while I was walking around. That went on for a year. So he's always been in need of extra attention. But I am definitely going to take him to a therapist at least for an evaluation to make sure everything is ok and see if he needs someone to talk to. I know I'm one step ahead of my mom because Ive been desperately seeking help since this ******** surfaced again. I'm doing everything I can (including 20 sessions of ECT - I've lost a LOT of memory) to make this better and give him a better life. I guess that makes me an ok mom.
Thanks everyone for the advice and the encouragement. I really need it right now.