Your right, I don't really know what dating is like, or what it is like to have the experience in College.

I did at least acknowledge that I haven't had that experience. So I can't know what it's like.

I am 46 now I got into the relationship I am in in 2012, but prior to that I was alone for 10 years by my own choice.

I had been in a marriage at 16 that ended when I was 22 then went right into another marriage that ended when I was 32.

What I realized is even though I was able to get into relationships or guys were interested, once I got into them they were really unhealthy and abusive.

The first one was abusive physically I had to get a restraining order to leave him. The second husband was abusive mentally.

Now that my kids are grown and I've been alone a long time I am able to be in a relationship with someone who likes me for me and not for my looks or sex.

It makes a huge difference. But I think at least in my own experience it was because of aging and maturing.

My choices and priorities changed in what I was willing to experience in a relationship and what I wanted in a man and what I brought to the relationship.

I guess what I mean is that what I used to be attracted to in men or what I used to want changed and once that did I had a much better experience.

Since we can't change other people, we can only change ourselves.

Maybe College guys aren't the ones for the person who originally posted her experience.

Maybe she would find a person who is perfect for her in a different environment.

But this is just an idea I am sharing, obviously I am no authority and my intention is encouragement.