sidony, I think I'm closer to you than some here. I do have fantasies that one day I will find a new mate or significant other (T has been helping me with the marriage/divorce decision and process) and be very happy and that I will let T know about this. I think it would make him very happy (although I know it would please him to see me happy in any context). I know that my T is divorced but is currently in a great relationship with a woman, and that makes me very happy for him (and perhaps helps me not have erotic transference since he is "taken"). I think having been through marriage, divorce, a new significant relationship, etc., makes him a better and more empathetic therapist for people going through the same things.