Have been in counseling? It might help you sort through your feelings. I, too, am having problems with true connection with other people. My husband and I live as roommates. I love him but am not "in" love with him, that part of the relationship went out the window years ago. I'm not sure I'm capable of staying in an intimate relationship for any length of time. I sabotage it every time. Not that advice from me would be really helpful with this but I would say patience would be in order. You can't force yourself to feel things you don't feel.