I find it hard to deal with anger. I was raised in a home where anger was never shown, so I grew up not knowing how to deal with it either. I usually choose unhealthy ways to soothe my anger, such as secret revenge, which is not only unhealthy but hurtful to other if and when they find out. I'm trying to learn to acknowledge and communicate things before they get to anger but I find it really hard, because I choke things down until they erupt. I find anger to be very unhealthy and destructive, and don't really know how to change it even though I've been in and out of therapy for years.