Hmmm..... that's an excellent question, Bill3.

Accept? I have found that trying to change an alcoholic is a waste of time. There are so many other aspects in the relationship to consider. In my case, he is darn near perfect in every other way.
His drinking behavior is upsetting, indeed, but I wouldn't consider leaving him for that factor alone.

Expectations: Ideally, there should be none -- only acceptance of a person for the way they are. I have accepted his drinking -- he's usually very funny and light-hearted -- it's when he gets irate over trivial things, due to the alcohol, that I find hard to cope with. He really went overboard this past week and it upset me greatly.

He has been calm for nearly 3 days now, although still drinking the usual amount. I do know that he has had health issues that he is concerned about. His irrational behavior started the day before his MRI and continued for 3 days after. Maybe THAT was the issue?? I'm not sure.