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Old Dec 13, 2014, 01:37 PM
Anne2.0 Anne2.0 is offline
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Originally Posted by Miguel'smom View Post
I have a week to find it deep down in me to trust him. How do you develop a trusting relationship faster?
I'm not sure I understand the week deadline.

I have started with new T's (after a first T) twice, and I suppose twice more if you count a family therapist in addition.

It has felt to me that trusting others is at least as much about how I'm feeling about myself than how I feel about them.

Would it help to consider what you are worried about with respect to trust? For example, are you worried that he:

1) would hospitalize you if you told him X;
2) would tell your husband if you told him X;
3) would print your records in the local paper;
4) would make fun of or mock you;

etc etc.

Sometimes with worries, I try to put estimates on how likely they are to happen. And I try to remember that about 99.9% of the things I've ever worried about don't come true.

Finally, can you talk about trust with him? This was one of my best early-on conversations with my latest new T.