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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
Personally I think you are getting enough good out of this relationship (so far) that you are rationalizing what I perceive to be some serious drawbacks. Furthermore I think you are starting to worry (and rightfully so, in my opinion) that 'familiarity (retirement and being around much more) will breed contempt.'
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Hello IceCreamKid.
I was thinking about the 'familiarity breeds contempt' thing the other night. I never wanted to feel that toward him -- or despair, anxiety, tension -- because that's how I felt about my last husband. Ugly feelings for someone you are supposed to love! That's why I came here for feedback/help.
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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
I also think the kind of denial you are in (and I base this on your focus on the laughter and the fun you're having, even though your husband is an admitted alcoholic) will wear on you, emotionally, and consequently physically.
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It already had -- my anxiety was almost up to the levels I'd experienced in my last marriage -- another reason why I came here.
Things have calmed down considerably but I feel it may happen again and I want to be 'armed' with defenses if I have to confront him on this issue.
I do not want to leave him so I'm hoping to find a way to deal with this in a manner that hopefully satisfies both of us.