For those of you who have complex ptsd and or attachment difficulties, what kind of agreement do most of you have with your therapists in terms of outside session support? And what works best for you whilst doing trauma work? What kind of support if any do they offer you?

Are you allowed email, texting, phone calls? Or do you have no contact outside of sessions at all? How do you feel about the current agreement you have about access or lack of access to your therapist outside sessions?

I'm conflicted by what I want in a therapist versus what I need. I don't like the idea of having no outside support from them, it feels cold and abandoning. I feel like I don't need to learn to be super independent, I already am that. I have never been over-dependent with anyone, but just having needs makes me feel needy and I do worry about being over-dependent.

But I do need to learn about emotional self-regulation. And I do get overwhelmed with the trauma work at times so I can see the argument for having no contact to a therapist outside of sessions in an attempt to contain it all in the room and not have it spill out across the week.

I'm looking for a new T and wondering what I need.