My goals have totally changed. I came to therapy for help coping with my husband's complex grief and to feel more emotionally self sufficient.

In many ways it has been successful for that, but it has uncovered my PTSD, anxiety disorder, childhood trauma etc etc.
I'm not sorry thsee things have been raised because I am the kind of person that wants to know and wants to address it all but it's given me so much more work to do.
Now I think I would settle for getting rid of the consuming transference that has developed and hurts like hell