Oh, and I FULLY disagree with the "joint therapy" bit.

Why?

It doesn't help you cut those damn apron strings! This is NOT about "you and her" this is about YOU needing to be INDEPENDENT! The two of you in therapy together will just reinforce that mommy/son bond. You two are stuck together with superglue.

Get your own therapy. Joint therapy is more for couples and families with kids under the age of 18. If you go to joint therapy, it will just be a lot of COMPROMISE and my friend, at this point, you're waaay beyond the point of compromise. Your mom should have NO say in anything that you do in your life. You make the decisions, and if she doesn't like it, then tough!