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Originally Posted by Prairie Girl
Hello IceCreamKid. 
I was thinking about the 'familiarity breeds contempt' thing the other night. I never wanted to feel that toward him -- or despair, anxiety, tension -- because that's how I felt about my last husband. Ugly feelings for someone you are supposed to love! That's why I came here for feedback/help.
It already had -- my anxiety was almost up to the levels I'd experienced in my last marriage -- another reason why I came here.
Things have calmed down considerably but I feel it may happen again and I want to be 'armed' with defenses if I have to confront him on this issue.
I do not want to leave him so I'm hoping to find a way to deal with this in a manner that hopefully satisfies both of us. |
I'm going to bow out of this conversation. I've never had a happy experience with an active alcoholic. In my opinion they are incredibly selfish people who will use others for their own benefit and hide behind more drinking to mitigate any shame they
are still able to feel. You might consider that your all-forgiving willingness to stay with an active alcoholic gives him silent permission to continue to drink.