You are the only other person besides myself that I have heard say that they try to protect their Ts from them. When I try to talk about this with my T she says things like "you won't break me" "you do not bother me" "you do not need to protect me". It makes me feel good when she says those things but it doesn't make me stop feeling like I need to protect her from me. I'm sorry I don't have any advise. Just wanted to let you know you're not alone