So, I rarely meet people I find physically attractive. In the past, I've been out with quite a lot of men I didn't find attractive and I got used to it - I just thought that was what life is like. But because I've occasionally found the people I was with attractive, and know that feels much better - much more right - I kind of only want to go out with people I find attractive.

My problem is that this is extremely rare. It's true that if you meet someone aesthetically beautiful (extremely rare for me) then they lose attractiveness if they're a prick. But I've known a lot of great guys that I don't find attractive and they don't become more attractive to me just because they're great. They just become my friend.

I feel like I'll never meet anyone I'll actually want to be with and I feel like this is a psychological problem. It's led me to stupid places before, staying with people I should never have been with because I didn't think I had any other options (seeing as I don't want anyone anyway etc.) I'd rather be on my own than ever do that again.

This is going to sound arrogant, but there is such a thing as instant physical attraction because I see it in guys looking at me. They see me, then they want to hang out with me, and you can see it in their eyes. What I want is to feel like that about someone - to find them that attractive. And I kind of feel like it's unfair if other people have that and I don't. I feel like I child just saying that. But it's not like I haven't had it before. Like I say, there are a couple of guys in my life that I have met that I've thought 'wow, you're attractive' as soon as I've met them. But honestly, it's been literally a couple of guys in my 28 years. Two guys. I haven't had a crush since I was 18.

I'm sure this is a problem with me but I can't work out how to change it. What if my standards are actually too high and I never find anyone? But on the other hand, I just can't settle again. I can't face it. I want to go out with someone because I actually want to, not because I should give them a chance...

Bit of a rant, but I kind of want to hear if anyone else feels the same way.