pinksoil, I did agree with some of what you said, so maybe I am hopelessly ambivalent about whether I have erotic transference to my T. He has gotten better and better looking since I first met him. I mean, the first time I met him, he just did not register physically on me at all. But somehow, over time, he is quite attractive now. Yet, I don't really feel like I want him to be my sexual partner, and I don't see him as a father figure either. I think I see him as an equal, a companion, the ultimate friend. Is that really too far from the truth? Most of my dreams about him are about him as a companion, and we do stuff together. Maybe it's because I miss this type of relationship in my own marriage that I want to have it with T.

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I look at his wedding ring, and I %#@&#! hate that he is married. I hate his wife. I have made up this fantasy that she is an evil, ugly woman and that he really hates her, too. That he only wears the ring because they are married, but he's really in the process of trying to rid himself of her.

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You crack me up, pink! I envision my T's partner to be very attractive, to have a really warm smile, and to be a perfect match for him. I really value his happiness, so I like to think he is soooo happy in his relationship. He's told me as much on several occasions, and I like that. It warms me to have him share that with me. I just want the best for him. Does anyone else feel that way, or am I the odd one here?