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Originally Posted by Depletion
One of the things that I don't understand is why therapists don't think that their patients will get to a point where they feel secure enough that they can develop some independence. What it is it about the therapy process or the previous trauma that makes it so that the whole thing has to be manufactured. Can we just no longer go through the process of becoming attached and then feeling secure that we should have been able to go though as children. Does the brain change some how to prevent this, or is the therapy relationship simply to restricted to really prevent this process from occurring.
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Ah yes. This is funny timing because I have been thinking of this topic since my therapist pointed out we have a "business relationship", and I was devastatingly hurt, and started to see how manufactured our relationship is. Here I thought we had a genuine relatedness to each other, but I forgot he was just doing a job, a job to relate to me no matter what for $.
I am a fragile person, prone to be overly dependent, or fiercely, and to my own detriment, independent. So I am like easy prey. If he only encouraged dependence it would be a bit abusive of the fact I pay him for therapy to supposedly improve myself. I think there are two reasons they pull us in and then push us away... 1) When you're comfortable you're not changing. If my needs are being met and I'm happily dependent on new daddy therapist, I'm not growing up. and 2) If new daddy therapist allows this he is kind of taking advantage of me. Here I am a damaged person seeking help, and he is exploiting me for financial gain by keeping me dependent.