Freud suggested every male chlld fantisized about having sex with its mother and every girl the same of their father. Sigmond Freud also used and prescribed cocaine heavily. He was a wack job. Your mom come from an era of secrecy and servitude. She was probobly going with what the "smart" proffesional told her and thought she was doing the best thing for her child. Your hypnotist sucked. Also, when you sleep you DREAM when you are awake you HALLUCINATE. Not sleeping leads to hallucinations. Not sleeping messes you all up. Put cotton in your ears when your son plays guitar. Say I love you to your daughter. YOur husband is scared, frustrated and wants to help but does not know how. Get a reputable therapist if you can afford it one that places and upholds approrpriate limits. Good luck.