My T and I have never discussed goals. I first went to get help dealing with my moms sickness and then death. Out of the transference I learned how many childhood needs I had that were never fulfilled. Just last session 7 months later my T told my husband one thing we are working on is not repeating my mom's cycle of parenting. I had never realized that nor thought I had somethkng not worth repeating. Well, I knew I don't want to be like my mom but it was the first time I heard my T say something like that. In the same session she pointed out unhealthy thought patterns I have. I don't think we've had to discuss my goals because all along we have found what I need working on.