I felt invalidated by my T a few weeks ago. I was telling her about a mentor who abandoned me. I explained to her the events that lead up to the abandonment. She started making excuses for my T (that's how I interrupted it). I told her how I found my mentor again later in life, and she wound up abandoning me a second time. She again tried to find an excuse (again my interpretation). I wound up completely breaking down and told her how she was making me feel. She told me that she didn't mean to invalidate my feelings or experiences. She was just simply trying to provide me with a different perspective so I could let go of feeling like the abandonment was my fault.

I think Ts sometimes try to help us see things differently, but don't realize that we need acceptance, reassurance, and to be believed on top of learning how to gain new/more perspectives. I also think they tend to encourage us or praise us, yet we also want our pain to be acknowledged.

Maybe try talking to your T about how you feel that she doesn't believe you. Maybe there's a misunderstanding? Like was the case btwn me and my T where we both misunderstood each other.