Thank you, Bill!
Yes, I have concluded that change would be good for me, too. The info does help me sort out changes, possibly for him, and how I can be of help to him.

Actually, he did go through counseling at the time of the accident. But the pain/guilt is still very strong for him.

I am considering counseling for myself indeed. I will be looking into that soon.

PTSD is very possible. I have read about it in the past -- will look into that again a little more in depth.