I've heard it done by some members here - so I don't think it's necessarily uncommon. My T has wanted to do it, but he's spoken with me first. The only time, though, was when he was pretty darn certain I was going to go through with it. He later told me it was also the only time he thought he might have put me inpatient (which kinda freaked me out). He talked me down to a point where he felt comfortable with me leaving his office and he just urged me to continue talking to my H about it.

That's my T relationship though and he knows I *will* be open with my H and that my H will call if he doesn't know what to do. For the most part, people let me make my decisions. I was forced into the hospital once six years ago and I have often said I would rather die than go back, sooooooo...

I think most people in my life try to avoid that.