My first significant rationship post divorce has been on and off for 1.5 years. We are both people pleasers at our best and conflict avoiding codependents at our worst. I am in regular therapy for my issues and she has had her first appointment but about another issue. I'm hoping her therapy uncovers some larger issues I believe are troubling her and us.

She had what i consider a bad childhood with a self centered mother, little intimacy, and poor boundaries. I have similar issues but am dealing with them. I am on a path of heing but she is not. I see things in her that i dislike in myself. Is this a situation we can deal with? Have others had similar experiences? I find myself wanting to point out her 'issues' but feel it is not my place.