Not sure how old you are, but emotional abuse from a parent is challenging to treat because the level of abuse is completely subjective and for the most part, not illegal. I'm not saying that it is OK...just hard to quantify. I had loving parents, but emotionally abusive in the sense that they completely neglected obvious signs that I needed serious help and attention. They pretty much contributed to my problems instead of helping. If you were to ask my brother and sister, there weren't any issues...they had very different experiences and needs then me.

It may be that your therapists are trying to get you to understand perspective and that while you feel emotionally abused by your parents, it is possible they didn't know any better and did the best they could. That was the case with mine. They had no clue what was going on inside my head because I never told them. A lot of the anger I built up against them was wasted because they really did do their best...it just wasn't enough and whose fault was it? Mine? Theirs? No one really.