YES rustytears, I have a suggestion!

Although it's painful, I think that this can actually be an important positive experience for you if you handle it the right way. First, it might help to realize that, unlike actual depression, the obsessive thoughts about your ex ARE going to fade over time. I can say that pretty confidently since what you are experiencing is experienced by many many people including myself. One year from now, this is not going to bother you a bit except for the occasional moments when you think about the past.

My specific suggestion is to try "SNAP CLUB" right now

http://forums.psychcentral.com/depre...n-escaped.html

If it works as intended, it will put you in touch with that inner part of you that decides what happens in your life. In a way, this is your true inner strength; your true self; your inner source of vitality and power. This is meant to put your in control of your own life starting from which shoe you tie first to what you decide to think about and what feelings you decide to have.

Even if SNAP CLUB doesn't appeal to you, I would suggest COMBINING getting over your ex with healing your overall depression in some way. Whatever you are thinking about trying to do to improve your depression, do it NOW.

- vital