My boyfriend displays the classic symptoms for NPD. He's not diagnosed with anything aside from ADHD, but I'm pretty sure he would qualify. Since I moved in three months ago, things have gone from great to really bad. Lately I feel like he's becoming verbally abusive making small comments here and there about how I could never compete with a 22 year old (I'm 30 and we got together when I was 25), telling me that while I'm objectively beautiful, and he loves me, he doesn't find me attractive. He makes me feel like he's doing me a favor by being with me. He recently said that sex with me was unfulfilling and that he might as well just "get a hand-job from a hooker." He refuses to work on our issues, only vacillates on the negatives (mostly me and how he isn't attracted to me - I should mention that the entire first year of our relationship was incredible sexual and passionate - he now claims that he never felt attracted to me and he thinks there is something wrong with him because of it - VERY confusing.)

My self-esteem has hit an incredible low and I no longer want to see or talk to friends and family, because I am so down and feeling such shame that I don't want anyone to know.

When we have a good time together, it's really great. I have, at times, felt so lucky to have the love I have, but the bad times are escalating and I feel trapped. My resentment towards him is mounting and I'm angry and sad a lot. I feel at a loss.