My boyfriend and I have been together for about seven years. Every year we spend Christmas Day driving to visit his parents who live about 7 hours away. Last year we also visited a childhood friend of my boyfriend who lives about two hours away from his parents (and further away from home). It's really a lot of driving to pack into four days.

Today I learned that my boyfriend wants to do a repeat of the trip we did last year. I don't like his parents and feel like an intruder when he visits with his friend. I miss out on Christmas with my own family. We've been spending Christmas Eve with my mother, but she works long hours on that day and at least one of my brothers usually also has to work.

Anyway, I don't really want to go. I am annoyed that I get informed of these plans instead of there being any discussion. I would like to stay at a hotel, but that gets shot down. I am at the point where I feel like if he wants to do the trip exactly how he wants, he can go alone.

I stayed at home one year and he was pretty angry with me. He kept insisting he wasn't, but I think he was. I am sorely tempted to take a pass this year as well.

Does anyone else let their SO visit their parents on their own?