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Originally Posted by healingme4me
 he has his 50% to pull in the relationship. He needs to educate himself, enough, to know that though the job was a disappointment, with your ptsd and depression, it's more than that. Of course you are trying to educate him, he needs to know how to handle life's setbacks, so that you keep sensing a sense of soulmate, friend, companion, and compassion from him. With abusive childhoods, things like these are amplified. I'm sure, you'd know what to do, in case he pulls his back again(reference from ptsd forum), it's up to him to know how these things are for you, to keep you supported and ready to lift you up, as that's what companions do. So, because he's not educating himself, you're left not only feeling low about that job, but also doubtful about your relationship, double stressor.
I don't always mention my illness, i can count my flares on one hand, over the past (nearly) 15 years.
And I see this far from a pity party, ((((WW))))) It's important, to feel heard, understood, cherished, nurtured and more.
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Thanks for being the voice of reason and wisdom I am really needing right now. I think the best thing for me to do is bring it up this week with my T and pdoc because since I have tried in the past to educate him, maybe there's a different approach I can take that would be more effective since my efforts in the past have not been as effective as I thought.
I think it also frustrates the hell out of me because I can tell the minute he walks in the house from work how his back is feeling simply by the way he walks, so I guess it stands to reason that he should be able to take one look at my face to know if I am having 'one of my days'. Maybe he does and I don't know it, but it would be nice to know that he at least can recognize my signals as well as I can recognize his.
Oh, and since then, I got a different and even better job, so there's that, which I am thrilled about! Maybe it's the roller coaster ride I seem to always be on that drives him nuts?
