You've received some excellent feedback, so I will refrain from echoing.

I want to say this though:

Yes love is about acceptance, but what about boundaries?

Boundaries are necessary to maintain HEALTHY relationships.

Nobody can just accept everything and be okay with everything because, love. That kind of thinking will lead to people treading very dangerous waters...

Also, I find it very disturbing, even telling, that you would walk away from one alcoholic straight into the arms of yet another...

Usually people leave such situations because they realize they deserve better, and thus go to great lengths to prevent being faced with the same problem again.

Even if you didn't leave because you thought you deserve better, you left because of self preservation, yet failed to honor that instinct with the next man.

Me thinks you're the one who should seek therapy, its not like your hubby actually wants help, but doesn't mean you shouldn't get any.

Ps. I have no intention of being an active participant in this discussion, it seems to be going in circles. I just wanted to leave my thoughts with you as you did request input.

Good luck, because from this angle, it honestly seems as if that's all you have to work with.