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Originally Posted by Soul Quake
Let his superior(s) know what's going on.
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Originally Posted by LindaLu
You have a coworker with a serious personality disorder who's gone from feeling hostility/resentment to acting out and this is serious. Do report to some authority in your company and have witnesses in that discussion other than his boss who could take his side and distort your report to make you out to be sick. In my employer the HR rep offers different forums to explore charges: aggrieved and her boss and HR, aggrieved and charged and both bosses, bosses only, etc. i hope you have an outlet for addressing this situation and choices that make you feel secure. You have a right to that.
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Originally Posted by BobbyDavis
I have met people like that and they are definitely a problem but I don’t think he is suffering from an insecurity complex or lacking confidence because most people that have an evil soul have a very high level of confidence which often borderlines on Megalomania (think Lex Luther – so-called evil genius and greatest criminal mastermind of all time.) It does sound like he is jealous of your position though and he could be trying to steal it out from under and if that is the case you should report him to your boss as another member suggested because it is a very sneaky way of bullying you and if he keeps it up after that take him to the side somewhere and tell him how you feel and to **** off.
Nobody needs to put up with ******** from other people and if you let him he will walk over you.
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Many thanks dears for reply and advice.
I believe that reporting a coworker to management is the worst way to solve this kind of problems, how can I deal with him afterwards, how can we handle some common work together, and for sure he will try by every way to utilize the situation and to win the battle, then he will look as the victim and I am the guilty one, and also if he looked the guilty one, he may try to revenge somehow afterwards to take back his good look in front of managers, may be also it will end up by kidding and that I am a kid and going through a childish way complaining from my colleague.
I can't tell the management that this person is jealous of me, I know it and definitely sure from it but such words are so sensitive and can't be told frankly and it even could be taken against me.
All I can say that he is interfering my job and he can escape from it easily saying "yea I was discussing it friendly and proposing something", "I did not mean to interfere in his job, he is just so sensitive and feels this and it is not the truth"...etc
For using my laptop, I am sure from it, but I don't have a strong proof for that.
@Bobbydavis
How can he steal my position, I am working very well and directly reporting to a manager who is not his manager, and my manager is totally satisfied about me.
He may interferes in my job during my absence also, he just interferes in my job, not deeply in details but he just interferes in discussions, I can't stop him from interfering during my absence, because I go some other places in work not full time with him.
Also I want to say that he always talking to me in a bad way, sometimes cursing, but he says "yea we are friends, i am kidding with you"