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Originally Posted by dancinglady
I think you are still in the grieving process if accepting this relationship is over. I think you are in the bargaining stage of the grief process. Let her make the first move and then discuss all of this with her.
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I would but if I wait for her to do it, I'll be waiting forever. Last year when we lost contact, she didn't make an attempt to get back in contact with me. She sent a few messages to an old number I deleted & that was it. She never did any things else or ask my dad about me or anything. I just have to accept that if I'm going to talk to her, I'll most likely be putting in most of the effort. If I stop contacting her, she will never reach out to me. I've always had to initiate things to maintain contact.
It won't be so bad. I won't smother her. I'll do my best to maintain the relationship & keep it positive & remind myself not to expect much back in return from her. I just can't cut off contact forever. It's like losing a parent or a childhood friend.