kaliope - since she has been resistant to seeing an IC herself, I hesitate to suggest we go together. Plus, we do a lot of counseling together, talking about our relationship, etc. I am kind of tired of it - shouldn't the beginning be easy?

CANDC - thank you for the welcome! I am still searching around for where I belong on this site. I agree because I don't know how to bring up issues when I am guilt of the same. If she sticks with the counselor I hope they come up naturally for her. I wonder about your last two sentences a lot. I sometimes think that this relationship has played the role it was supposed to play in our lives. But she sees it differently and I feel responsible (old issue) and guilty for not feeling the same.