I'm sorry this happened to you, Archipelago. I have had male mentor figures let me down by crossing the line, and I understand the desire to keep such a person in your life even while feeling disgusted and as if the person is changing from what you need them to be.

I never had a video texted to me, but I have dealt with a prominent well-known professor who left voicemails in the middle of the night and who sent me emails at all hours.

Even as he praised me, I felt sickened and overexposed and scared.

You might not feel any of those ways, but I'm angry that your therapist of so many years sent you that video. He might have even known it was wrong and he could have stopped himself or worked on his own urge.

Even if he did live in some naked commune, he's not dumb and he knows that other people don't inhabit that same world.