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Originally Posted by narcissistimposter
Hi,
Oh, I love sex with my wife and we are after 16 yrs still learning about each other. It's just that sex is too much work and therefore don't want to get involved in the work before it happens and I don't feel like that should be.
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I think that what you are trying to say is that
sex used to not be like work, but now is like work. In essence, you are not trying to compare sex with your wife with solo sex; you are wondering why sex with your wife has become like work, while solo sex has not. You are worried about the negative dynamic in partner sex, it seems, and juxtaposing it with the lack of any such dynamic in solo sex, and, expressing discontent because this is not how it should be. Is that about right?