yes that is what my husband and i are doing .it is what we use to do for a few years because i stopped doing the family thing .then my farther stopped doing the family thing and we started going to the casino to not do the holiday family thing .it was starting to be a tradition and no stress from other family . but now my farther and stepmother are smozing up an estranged uncle of hers that is in his 90s and about to die and even thhoe they had already said we were going to the casino the uncle they are after his money wants to go to this crappy church dinner and asked my stepmother to take him so family time with me is now once again not important .i have nothing to offer my family except someone to just be horrible to . to use when there is nothing else to do .i know it is irrational and all but i hate them for who they are and i hate me for who i am . and i now once again hate holidays . why would i ever believe i was ever important to him anyway .im so F ing stupid .i really am