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Originally Posted by Jocelyn123
We are meant to be getting married soon, and my life is incredibly intertwined with his. Not to say I couldn't leave but it would mean leaving the life I've built for the past ten years. It's complicated, which adds a stress for us both, I'm sure. I don't know where I would go / what I would do. There are definitely some dependency issues on my end. I truly believe he doesn't want to or mean to hurt me. We talked about it again this morning and he apologized, but I don't know. The cycle has been brutal.
Thank you all for your feedback and support. I can't tell you how much it means.
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I personally think your original post is showing what your feeling and dealing with on a daily basis, which is him being emotionally abusive.
Your response? Well , it comes across as a typical abuse victim, Your making excuses for his behavior, and reasons that disconnecting your life would be difficult, etc.
~~~~~~> The cycle has been brutal. <~~~~~~ This ! you typed.. Are you willing to deal with "cycles" like this ?
It is very common for the abused to make allowances and excuses for the abuser.
Why marry if hes telling you that you do not fulfill his needs sexually and hand jobs are more appealing?
Why marry if he doesn't find you attractive?
I do hope that before you continue with this relationship that you seek Therapy to help you sort through your emotions and thoughts about how a loving relationship that has
mutual respect should be.. Respect is no where to be found in your relationship at this time. Re read your original post a few times.