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Old Dec 15, 2014, 07:29 PM
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I have only this one really close guy friend in my university faculty and we basically have almost all of the same classes. I don't have any other friends that I talk to regularly and neither does he. I thought we were in a platonic friend relationship but now I'm not so sure.

A month ago, he hugged me. I've never been hugged by a guy before and he's not the type of guy to give out random hugs. Since then I've been confused about whether I just like him as a friend or more. I don't feel any butterflies unless he makes physical contact but I have no idea how he feels about me. We haven't talked about it either since then.

We talk almost every night for 2-3 hours via Facebook chat and there have been a few times when I called him because he requested a wake up call (also very new to me). We tease each other sometimes like poking or tickling and there have been a few times when he brushed the hair out of my face. Sometimes I catch him looking at me. But he has also talked to me about other girls (not for a few months now though) and by gut feeling, I don't get the vibe that he cares about me or likes me more than a friend. In fact there have been times when he said that he doesn't care about me,... jokingly?

Since finals are coming up, we decided to study together and for the sake of convenience, and curiosity on my part, we decided to study at his house. It was normal studying until after dinner when his dad left and then it was only the two of us in his room. I was stretching while standing and he suddenly hugs me from behind. It lasted for a few moments before he said "nvm, I don't know what I'm doing" and sat back down in his chair to browse through funny pictures.

I'm left standing there like an idiot with a thoroughly red face I'm sure and then we study for the next two hours. He mentions how hugging, kissing and even sex has lost meaning in the modern society. At one point when I lean closer to him to see the textbook, he leans in closer too as if to kiss me to which I respond with a "seriously?" look. He chuckles and backs off. After two hours I leave the room and come back to lie down on his bed because I'm tired.

He comes over me, hovering his body over mine and puts his arms on either side of me but I ignore him because I have no intention of going to second base with him. He then lies down next to me and I can feel his stare. I sit back up at which point he just hugs me again from behind and tries to indirectly seduce me, saying stuff about him being a virgin too and other personal things. I'll admit that his hugs feel really nice and I'm left with a fuzzy brain fog while he touches me while respecting my boundaries. He asks if he could touch my breasts and I say no. He says okay and drops the issue. We spend the next half hour cuddling/hugging which I really liked. To be honest, I don't even know if I like him or if I just like the physical contact with a guy since I've never experienced this before nor have I ever had a boyfriend. His smell is really attractive to me though. He drives me home after that (a thirty five minute drive) after I insist that I need to get home. He wanted me to stay longer and chat/play games with him. Does he actually like me or just my body since I'm a girl that close to him and wouldn't mind his touch?

Tldr version: I have a really close guy friend that tried to get to second base with me but respected my wishes and cuddled with me instead. Does he like me or just my body since I'm a closely accessible girl? Also, if I enjoyed his hugs, does that mean that I like him or just the contact?

Thanks for any advice! I'm just so confused right now and I have no idea how to face him tomorrow!! (though I still find myself wanting more of his hugs....)

Last edited by Shriveled Muse; Dec 15, 2014 at 10:14 PM.
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