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Originally Posted by lizardlady
A question for those of you who did not hit back or leave - when I read comments from those who did hit back, called the police, threw his butt out I feel like I wasn't strong enough. I'm not saying that anyone here has said that about me. I'm saying that's my perception. I feel like, once again I was a failure.
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I'm glad you recognize that the feeling of being a failure is just a feeling and not the truth.
None of this is cut and dry. Maybe your animals were more important to you than your safety sometimes. It's a choice you have every right to make based on the information you have at the time.
A male friend of mine stayed with an abusive partner because he worried about their child. They did split up, finally. The woman got full custody even though she had a record of child abuse. He has no money for lawyers, no money for child support. Maybe it would have been better for him to have stayed.