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Originally Posted by SqrqhJean
Well? (: Do you believe in monogamy?
1. I have never cheated on someone
2. I've never cheated with someone (Not that I know of.)
-However, my first girlfriend kissed another girl and wrote romantic letters to another girl behind my back-
-My second girlfriend (towards the end) would delete all her texts, get blackout drunk, and I once saw a text pop up that said "I'll lion mount you" (Wtf?) (She'd get furious if I went near her phone, toward the end)
-And the last guy I dated, when I asked him if I was the only girl, said No. (At least he was honest)
-And I've seen a lot of old people at parties kiss and touch each other's wives as if it's nothing?
-I have had men with girlfriends/wives try to get with me. (They were rejected.)
I suppose this all bothers me because when I was little I'd watch fairy tales featuring monogamy (Yay Disney princesses!) and I wanted and still want that so bad! But I am continually slapped in the face by reality..
Not to mention I have seen a lot* of cheating and met a lot of polygamists lately
So what do you think? You think monogamy is real? Or an illusion?
(I mean monogamy as in ONE romantic/sexual partner, ONE person you kiss)
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I do not think that Disney princesses are a relevant anchor to which you would sort of attach your beliefs and preferences. Disney princesses are about lifetime monogamy and life without any problems after the wedding day. The plot in Disney stories all happens BEFORE the wedding day. Maybe one exception is what happens to be my favorite movie - the 101 Dalmatians - but then again, this movie does not have a human princess, which might just be why it is a favorite with so many folks including me.
So Disney princesses never had any taste of life after the wedding day. The wedding day is the culmination of the story and nothing else matters.
So it is basically almost exactly the inverse of real life.
In your own story, you mention several past connections saying that you did not cheat on them. Fair enough, so you had temporal monogamy - at one point in time, you were with one person, kissing him or her and all the rest of that. But then you moved onto the next person.
Would a Disney princess move from one man to another? No way - it would be in complete violation of the plot for each movie about a princess. Would a Disney princess have a romantic girlfriend? likewise, no way in hell she would.
Disney's princesses were supposed to live happily ever after.
Ever after means LIFETIME monogamy.
It does not mean anything else.
So what would you say - do you believe in Disney's version of monogamy or do you not, if you were to make this assessment from your current vantage point and not from the vantage point of a little girl in front of the TV or movie theater screen?